"The postings here are a spontaneous mix of musings, pearls of wisdom, questions to which I don’t have answers, quotes (source acknowledged wherever possible)…and anything else which takes my fancy… may be deep-and-meaningful—and it may not!
I wish you happy reading… may there be something here which resonates with you, gives you pause and an opportunity for quiet reflection." ~ AmayahGrace

Conformity and Uniformity

This topic was sparked one afternoon when I was driving past lots of young children (under 10 years old) on their way home from school. It was seeing these children dressed in their school uniforms that set me ruminating on uniforms and on uniformity, and how so many schools teach a uniform curriculum, a uniform way of thinking and of dressing.  While the uniform can be 'dressed up' as instilling pride in the school and making everyone equal, it also subtly teaches the importance of conforming to a particular set of rules (ours),  and it lends a sense of belonging and a distinction between 'us' and 'them'.  This is the purpose of all uniforms, no matter how obvious or how subtle they are.

And with the uniform comes conformity—of thinking, of behaviour.  I remember reading or hearing many years ago that most people are right-footed (i.e. when they walk, they lead with their right foot), and one of the ways the military instills obedience and conformity is by teaching recruits to lead with their left foot...left, right, left, right.

While I was having my little wander down this thought path, I found myself wondering about the ways I—and maybe you too—still conform in thinking and acting to the 'rules' set down by our families and society in general, and just how challenging it is to challenge those expectations, to leave the safety and comfort of conformity and to decide for ourselves how we think and how we find out who we truly are.

And as we do, our 'uniforms' become heart centredness, kindness and compassion....and that is how we recognise and honour each other.

Greetings.  A joy to meet you!  May you travel well.

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The Elephant and The Broomstick

Some weeks ago, I took a tumble which resulted in—among other things—my needing to wear a moonboot.  When people asked me what had happened, I would smile and change the subject because I explained that talking about it would keep the experience alive in my cellular structure.  One person though started laughing and told me that in her family they would tell people the most outlandish and imaginative story they could think of.

So I took that as a model and started telling people I had been trying to fly over an elephant when my broomstick got stuck....and, after they'd processed what I'd said, they'd start laughing—and so would I. 

What a glorious—and healing—way to change the energy!   

May you never need to use this strategy....if you do, though, please have the maximum amount of fun possible.  And laugh yourself back to healing.  As St Germain said:  'Laughter is the alchemy that changes everything".

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Cellular Memory

During a lovely, exploring conversation yesterday (don't you treasure those sorts of conversations?), I became aware that clients come to me because they are experiencing cellular memory of some form of trauma (grief, loss, anger, abandonment, worthlessness whatever it may be) from this or other lifetimes. And I got to wondering why it is that we hold the cellular memory of trauma and yet we don't seem to hold the cellular memory of Love (rather than its loss), of Peace (rather than of war), of Joy (rather than despair).  I'm not saying that we don't, just that if we do then it's more hidden.

And as I'm writing this, I'm coming to realise that maybe it's because trauma carries a denser energy which can squash the lighter/higher vibrations of Love and Compassion.  Maybe too, until we can recognise and clear the cause of our trauma, these higher vibrations can only express themselves as instinctive actions of helping, caring, supporting.  Once we do the clearing, then we can get back to our core state of Being - which is Love and Compassion.

I so love conversations that lead to wondering—which leads to wonder....don't you?

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Love Them to Peace

When you experience first-hand—or hear about, or see in the media—negative or low-energy behaviour, you know it is coming from a place of deep pain.  Whether the person (or people) know it or not, you know it.  So, instead of reacting, why not flood Love to that place of deep pain so that it may find Peace, and so may they find Peace.

At this time of year especially, there is an almost palpable belief in and yearning for Peace.  Let us flood Love to all souls on the planet right now, no matter their colour or creed, their beliefs or understandings, so that their deep pain may be healed and we may all come to Peace.

May all hearts be healed!

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Lessons from a Plaster Cast

On the day of Spring Equinox, I experienced an 'incident' (I refuse to call it an accident) and broke both bones in my lower leg.  Before I go any further, please know that I have been - and am being - nurtured and cared for on all possible levels, and I am healing well.  Every day is a big leap forward (not literally!), and I am so proud of my body and her achievements.

This time-out has given - and continues to give me - so many learnings from my experience...and I don't want to run the risk forgetting them once I'm fully mobile again.  Already I can feel them starting to slip away as I get stronger or they become integrated.  So, before they disappear, here are some of my learnings:

Acceptance.... accepting that I can only do what I can do.  Even the simplest tasks take much longer, and I have to think at least two moves ahead to go from the couch to the kitchen to make a cup of coffee (as for getting in and out of the shower...well!), that my energy levels are currently not what they were, to focus only on what's important and immediate.  

Above all, accepting that I'd been carrying some deeply buried judgements about disability or bodies that are less than perfect; about silently ascribing fault and blame and, if I'm brutally honest, other emotions which are even more harsh and less kind.  I was so shocked to have uncovered such a lack of compassion; after all, how does this fit into my work as a healing channel, and how does it fit with what I tell others: that it is so important for us to stay out of judgement when we don't even know all of our own choices, let alone those made by someone else for their learnings this lifetime...we can never know what life/soul choices another has made nor the reasons for those choices, so how can we judge them?  I am humbled and so grateful to have found this mis-match within myself.  It has been one of the true opportunities of this whole experience, and has allowed me to seek Forgiveness from all those I've ever mis-judged (including myself)...and for me to heal on this level as well.  

One day at a time....each day is different, with returning energy levels and being able to do more - milestones (like the first time I drove the car - yeaaay!) are celebrated with Delight.  Doing my best not to 'get ahead of myself'.  Finding Joy in the small 'victories' reminds me to be more present.  

Receiving....this has been another real biggie.  I have been so skilled at being independent, and asking for help has never been easy, but nowhere near as challenging as learning to receive help and loving support when I haven't asked for it.  I've been given SO dear friends, family and total strangers, and by all my non-physical 'team'.  I am in tears as I write all of you, whether you know who you are or not - with my heart full of Love - THANK YOU.

Finally, if I may...the next time you see someone in a plaster cast or struggling physically as a result of some recent 'incident', please don't ask "What happened?".  This question takes them back into the past, to the event which may have been traumatic and which they may not yet have cleared through their system.  While it is very human to want to express sympathy, it is so much more empowering for the other person when you can keep them focussed in the present and encourage them on their healing journey by asking how well they're doing.

It's time I hopped Gratitude, in Acceptance and in Joy at BE-ing in the here-and-now - which is such a magical place to BE.

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